Are Some Humans Born to Bully? Born to Be Victims? Can It Be Changed?

Bullying is a continuing problem in our society. Why has it gotten worse? What happens when a bully grows up? How do we deal with it? These are some of the questions Kristen Lamb takes on in this important post. No one likes being bullied, but it happens everywhere: school, church, work, online. Kristen offers some great insights and ideas.

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One of the reasons I am SO HAPPY you guys take the time to comment and share your thoughts is your insights often highlight areas I might not have thought to address.  A commenter Mr. Dandylion replied to my publishing predictions for 2014 with darker thoughts, which included this phrase:

“A new author will commit suicide after a sustained online bullying campaign, most likely stemming from Goodreads; it will cause major headlines and public anger.”

Those words hit home and made me think. Granted, as a writer, I’ve experienced my share of trolls and (gratefully) only two LOONIES. But I have too many author friends (including NYTBSAs) who’ve been victimized by flash mobs of cyber-bullies. I’ve also had blogger friends who wrote on very innocent topics randomly victimized by gangs of trolls for seemingly no reason.

Oddly, when I tried to research bullying and bullying resources for yesterday’s post, I…

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3 thoughts on “Are Some Humans Born to Bully? Born to Be Victims? Can It Be Changed?

  1. I think it’s a combination of nature and nurture that makes a person who they are. Most my life I’ve felt like the victim, but I’m now learning how to stand up for myself and not pay attention to the bullies.
    This is a really thought provoking post. Thank you!

    • Megan, I”m happy to hear that you’ve been learning skills to stand up for yourself. No one deserves to be bullied. Also, as chronically ill adults, we can be more susceptible to people making cruel and insensitive comments. Bullies may see us as easier targets. I was lucky to learn early on how to take a stand, and oddly enough, it came from standing up for others first. I think the world has a shortage of kindness right now. I talked about this in my New Years post. If we all practiced being more kind to each other, if we each did one act of kindness for someone else each day, what a difference it would make!
      Take care,

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